Don't you see? It's not about working harder to become these things, these things are who you already are! If you spend anytime reading the Bible, you will quickly learn that God doesn't want you to try harder to be anything other than what He's already created you to be. Let's take a look at the Amplified translation of Proverbs 31:10-31:
10A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman--who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls.
11The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil.
12She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her.
13She seeks out wool and flax and works with willing hands [to develop it].
14She is like the merchant ships loaded with foodstuffs; she brings her household's food from a far [country].
15She rises while it is yet night and gets [spiritual] food for her household and assigns her maids their tasks.
16She considers a [new] field before she buys or accepts it [expanding prudently and not courting neglect of her present duties by assuming other duties]; with her savings [of time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard. [S. of Sol. 8:12.]
17She girds herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] and makes her arms strong and firm.
18She tastes and sees that her gain from work [with and for God] is good; her lamp goes not out, but it burns on continually through the night [of trouble, privation, or sorrow, warning away fear, doubt, and distrust].
19She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20She opens her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her filled hands to the needy [whether in body, mind, or spirit].
21She fears not the snow for her family, for all her household are doubly clothed in scarlet.
22She makes for herself coverlets, cushions, and rugs of tapestry. Her clothing is of linen, pure and fine, and of purple [such as that of which the clothing of the priests and the hallowed cloths of the temple were made].
23Her husband is known in the [city's] gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.
24She makes fine linen garments and leads others to buy them; she delivers to the merchants girdles [or sashes that free one up for service].
25Strength and dignity are her clothing and her position is strong and secure; she rejoices over the future [the latter day or time to come, knowing that she and her family are in readiness for it]!
26She opens her mouth in skillful and godly Wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness [giving counsel and instruction].
27She looks well to how things go in her household, and the bread of idleness (gossip, discontent, and self-pity) she will not eat.
28Her children rise up and call her blessed (happy, fortunate, and to be envied); and her husband boasts of and praises her, [saying],
29Many daughters have done virtuously, nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], but you excel them all.
30Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!31Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates [of the city]!
As if that's not enough to fire you up, let's take a look at what this really means to us. God is saying to you, that if He has it written here, that's who you are! Like I mentioned before, He isn't saying, "work harder to be these things." He's telling you to start believing, REALLY believing that you are these things. What needs to happen is we need to start meditating on who God says we are, until it really sinks deep down into our hearts. Once we believe it in our hearts, it will begin to pour out and overflow into our behaviors and the rest of our lives! According to Proverbs 31 this is who you are!
more precious than jewels
strong (spiritually, mentally, & physically)
an open handed giver
full of dignity
to be envied
A DAUGHTER OF THE CREATOR OF THE UNIVERSE!
You better believe it ladies! If you're not feeling like all of these things, don't worry! You aren't defined by your feelings. Keep saying these things about yourself over and over. Eventually you will begin to believe what God has been trying to show you all along.